I have spent most of my life trying to please family and friends. The idea was to make everyone happy and as long as they were happy so was I. Before Justin, it wasn’t much of an issue because I could arrange my to-do list around others. So, even after my plate piled high you would think that the unnecessary task from others would cease. NOT SO! Justin came and the demands got harder. I was at my wits end with; can you, will you and with no regards to me having a special needs child.

I thought that I was being taken advantage of because people assumed that being a stay-at-home mom gave me all the time in the world to cater to their needs. I also felt that if I did things for others as my grandfather would often say; “one favor deserves another,” thinking the favor would be returned. I understand that saying no puts you in a difficult place however; you are not equipped for an overload of others demands.

There are times when you just have to say NO! I often thought by doing so I was being selfish but would still try to oblige the demands to keep peace. Now I realize that I had to put Justin first even if it meant displeasing others. Do not commit to something that you can’t possibly keep up. Respect is a key factor in any relationship, and when asked to do things that are not being considerate of you and your special needs child it is OK to just say no.

About The Author

God fearing, loving mother to an awesome young man. Enjoying what I do! Although I'm not the greatest teacher, however raising a child with special needs has given me more degrees than any college university you could think of.

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