What Makes Justin Happy? Mary December 26, 2014 Love Allowing Justin to do his own thing and leaving him alone is what makes him happy. “Let me do just what I want, when I want, and how I want,” is how I think Justin feels. Like most children, right? There are days when I have to give him the space to be alone, to do what he wants. As much as I’m constantly in the mommy role doing so much for him on a daily basis, giving him space to be alone is my way of showing respect for him and his desires. I had to learn very early on that I need to help Justin turn his disability into an ability. Don’t get me wrong: I want Justin to be happy but I understand that Justin has to learn to do things for himself as much as possible. So, of course, he thinks I’m a fussy mommy at times. Is he happy about me always pushing him toward self-sufficiency? No, of course not. Still, I have to let Justin know that we have to structure our days and do those things that must be done. If I would allow him to do what he wanted every day, he would consistently climb on top of everything with no fear of falling. I often tease Justin and say that I’m going to put him in gymnastics because of his flexibility and agility :-).