Your child’s independence is based on what you teach them and in the long run will be very detrimental in teaching daily life skills. Feeding Justin seemed logical rather than taking the extra time and steps for him to feed himself. Dress him, bathe him, comb his hair, brush his teeth and picking him up instead of allowing him to walk to the car or from the car seemed faster. It was easier to do the things needed for him because of his lack of learning the basics. I thought at an early age this wasn’t a big deal (now) my friends it’s a different world. My child is now 5’1, weighing 105 pounds, and of course I am no longer able to carry him from place to place.

A teaching of basic life skills start early on and also prevent dependency upon parents and caregivers. Imagine having a child with multiple disabilities, and feeling self pity where you would rather do basic skills for them instead of allowing him/her to learn on their own. This has been by far the hardest for me; to let go and allow Justin to learn the simple skills in life. I am aware that his learning ability is not the same as a normal child. However; I do understand that helping him learn simple life skills is vital for him to reach his full potential. He needs repetition, prompts, and simple detailed plans which tells him exactly what to do, how to and when. 

Our responsibility is to certainly provide for our autistic children; love, independence, medical care and education. Moms, Dads and caregivers our children have no trouble learning, they just learn in a way that is unfamiliar to us. Autistic children are special and exceptional as well as highly capable of learning according to their own skill set. Let us put on the whole armor of parenthood and do this!

About The Author

God fearing, loving mother to an awesome young man. Enjoying what I do! Although I'm not the greatest teacher, however raising a child with special needs has given me more degrees than any college university you could think of.

Would love to hear from!